Saturday, October 28

Death Takes a Holiday



If I've done this right, here is Big O's interpretation of what death would do on vacation. Bowling and Cotton Candy. Posted by Picasa

Confession #68,428,585

Halloween was much easier and more fun when I had one child. Maybe it's the age difference, but these endless nights of Halloween are seeming to go on and on this year. When Big O was small, it was ONE night, Two if we hear about something fun.

We have been trick-or treating to the UOP dorms, which was fun, but Little O was DRAGGIN' by the end, and Big O was ready to go for days more.

We went to Big O's school Family Fun Night, where I felt like Satan for not volunteering like they were begging us to, but what, exactly, am I going to do with my four year old while I flip burgers? Because making her sit for even fifteen minutes is not an option when the carnival is going on.

I still have the actual night to go, which will involve lots of ferrying Little O from one relative to the next so that they can ooh and ah over her. Maybe it was easier with Big O because nobody lived in town and ther were no older siblings to keep up with. This year should be better, though, because the Honey actually has the night off. This year I don't have to try and do it all myself!

Big O will be with his dad, which ought to make it easier, but it doesn't, because I miss him when he's gone, and hate that he and Little O don't get all of their holidays together. Hate it.

Whatcha gonna do, though?

Friday, October 27

The big reveal....

I do not have a JD bottle tattoo from my shoulder blades to my butt
cheeks. But I frequently tell people that I do in memes.

I won a couple of poetry contests in high school, but I was never
ridiculed and/or traumatized by classmates in the eighth grade over my
poetry (although I probably should have been). It's true that I don't
enjoy poetry at all, though. Except for those Tuesday Work Sucks

I was not the one who superglued the pennies. That was the first bad
boyfriend. But the manager WAS that awful.


On a separate note, have you tried the new white chocolate M&M's? They
are like little candy coated balls of Crisco to me.

THe dark chocolate ones are keepers, though!

Men Beware---not your thing...I hope.

I had the strangest experience in the stirrups yesterday...

I have gone for regular pap smears since I turned 16. That's twenty
years of awful paper dresses.

I usually go to an Ob-Gyn, but I was getting a physical anyway, and I
was overdue for an exam, so I killed two birds with one copay. My Dr.
is a nice middle aged Filipino lady. But she kept SHOWING me things.
Like everything. She beamed at me as she showed me the swab, and then
the speculum. UGH. She was so excited, and seemed to want to reassure
me that it was all good.

Lady, I'm trying to block this from my brain and pretend it's not
happening. Admittedly, after twenty years and two kids, it's not nearly
as traumatic as it used to be, but it's not a lot of fun, either.

Was it because she doesn't usually do them? Is this standard practice?
It's always been my experience that they cover it all back up
discreetly under something. Maybe it's the difference between male and
female Doctors?

Does anyone else get the show and tell treatment on this lovely, lovely

Thursday, October 26

Thursday Thirteen #17--2 birds with one stone!

I WAS TAGGED FOR A ME ME BY Jenny In Ca, and I am combining it with my TT. Ten things you didn’t know about me—and three lies.

1. When I was the age that Big O is now, I had a huge waterfight at my house, boys against girls. Girls were inside with bowls and cups and things, boys were outside with hoses—aiming into the house. My mother came home in the middle. And yet I live.
2. I have a black thumb. I better never go into rehab—the rule in the movie 28 days, where you have to keep a plant alive for a year before you get a pet, and have that for a year before you can date? I’d be a lonely, lonely girl surrounded by my dead foliage—and not even a cat for company.
3. I regret my tattoo. At twenty a Jack Daniels Bottle is very rock and roll. At thirty-six it’s feeling a little skank-ish. Plus it’s hard to explain to your O’s.
4. My kids are the third generation where everyone gets the same first initial. But I broke tradition by not giving them the same middle initial.
5. When I was a kid I had an extra tooth in the roof of my mouth and had to have it removed, but they did not believe me when I told them I could feel them working on me. To this day I have an unreasonable fear of dentists. I don’t cry when I see a dentist on TV, but I always find a reason to miss any appointment I set.
6. I won a poetry contest when I was in the eighth grade and had my picture in the paper along with my poem. I was ridiculed in school and it turned out to be the most miserable experience of my life, and that is why I hate poetry to this day.
7. I was a social hermit in high school and went skiing every weekend with my father the winter of my junior year. The night of the Junior prom (when I had been turned down by the boy I FINALLY got the nerve up to ask--he came out two years later but by that time I was SCARRED for life), my dad had to work but arranged for one of his ski patrol buddies to pick me up and go night skiing so I wouldn’t be home dwelling on it.
8. On that note, I was socially retarded and did not have a boyfriend until I was seventeen. He was every parent’s worst nightmare, a divorced twenty-three year old father, working fast food and living with his mother. Oh, and he was a dope smoking heavy metal fan whose wardrobe consisted solely of cut up t-shirts…WINNER! I stayed with him until I was twenty and my parents about peed their pants—I got a trip to Europe, they were so desperate to get me away from him.
9. I lost my virginity at sixteen in a calculated move that made for a hysterical story for another post. Possibly for another blog. And yes, that timeline is accurate.
10. One day after school I decided to show off and take the 1976 Ford f-150 king cab truck for a drive around the block with my girlfriend. The stupid thing was huge and had a first gear that was essentially useless unless you were hauling something up a hill. I got it out of the driveway and around the corner and it just would not move anymore. My brother just happened to be coming over, and drove it home for me and never told my folks.
11. I was onstage with Bill Cosby once. My brother introduced me to him as the family pet in front of the entire audience.
12. I once super glued pennies to the windshield of a very bad manager. She was nasty and vile and had a revolving rubber check that she would have us cash and then take out before the deposit went to the bank. To add insult to injury, she just used the same damned check over and over again.
13. I am closer to forty than thirty now, and I have never plucked my eyebrows. I think I might do it this year for the Christmas Party. I think.


Total Mind Blowing Update-- My
TT #4 was thirteen people I wanted to find again. One of them found me BECAUSE of my TT! WOW! I am so excited and now have to figure out how to contact her! Amanda, if you’re reading my blog, email me!

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Time for some more of that sweet, sweet Linky Love!

Wednesday, October 25

Bring on the Revolution!

I have a list of people that need to GO!

People are CRANKY lately. Man!

I will be glad when this week is over.

I am a bad mother--Little O keeps asking for Smarshmallows, and I keep giving her a few at a time just so I can hear her say smarshmallows.


Tuesday, October 24

Tasty Tuesday--Mmmm...Tri Tip

My blog sistas, I am writing to you today about the most glorious supermarket innovation EVER. I just took it for granted that it was everywhere, like tortillas. My auntie from Tennessee had no idea what we were talking about.

Go ask your butcher for some Tri Tip. When the local market throws some on the grill, my heart goes pitter pat. I will pay their highway robbery prices to take one home already cooked and melt in your mouth tender. Or I will grill one myself. But I don't do it as well as the burly boy from the market.

Costco sells them here, but my auntie says not so in the south. Brisket is hard to find here so I guess it's a regional thing. Tri tip is a good compromise for us because I like it Pink and the Honey likes it overcooked. I am slowly bringing him around. But Don't let anybody put barbecue sauce on it. Ugh. Why ruin a perfectly good piece of meat with that goo? That's okay for ribs. Tri tip deserves better.

This message has been brought to you by the atkins diet and your friendly neighborhood cardiologist.


I was trying to put in a Flickr photo, but alas, no luck.

Here's a little more info from our friends at Wiki.

Monday, October 23

My Honest Child...

Little O had a fabulous birthday, got a Little Mermaid scooter to go with her new helmet and elbow/knee pads. She was dying to to try it all out after school today. We got her into all of her safety gear, and began our circuit of the block.

Halfway through she looks at me and says,

"Mama, this is not a lot of fun, but it is a little fun."

Love my O's.

Me Me for a mutha f***in' Monday

It's thief week at Did You Ever...
I have cheerfully stolen this meme from CRSE, at that blogosphere Hotspot, Zamphir Panflutemaster. I may steal several of her answers, as well.

  • DO YOU SNORE? 'Fraid so. Not always, and nowhere near the volume and consistency of my chainsaw lover. The man SNORES.
  • ARE YOU A LOVER OR A FIGHTER? I'm an observer.
  • WHAT’S YOUR WORST FEAR? Failing my kids/disappointing my folks.
  • AS A KID, WERE YOU A LEGO MANIAC? eh. I played, but not obsessively
  • WHAT DO YOU THINK OF “REALITY” TV? It's fun to watch for a while, but I like to see the tasks more than the people. (I love the locations on Amazing Race, the pictures on Top Model, the food of Hell's Kitchen)
  • DO YOU CHEW ON YOUR STRAWS? No. But every once in a while I catch myself with a pen, and it grosses me out..
  • WERE YOU A CUTE BABY? I was very smiley, and I had dimples. I think I was troll-doll cute. My mom says I was adorable, but, you know, she's my mom.
  • IS THE SINGLE LIFE FOR YOU? Nope, I like having a partner.
  • HAVE YOU EVER BUNGEE JUMPED? Nope. Couldn't now until my kids are grown.
  • ANY SECRET TALENTS? Bwahahaha.
  • WHAT’S YOUR IDEAL VACATION SPOT? Beach house filled with books.
  • CAN YOU SWIM? It's not pretty, I got no strokes, but yeah, I can tread water and get from point A to point B. I enjoy it.
  • DO YOU GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THE OZONE? Um, sure. I drive an SUV, but it's a Honda--does that help the karmic/ozonic balance?
  • HOW MANY LICKS DOES IT TAKE TO GET TO THE CENTER OF A TOOTSIE POP? If I ever met a person who could actually do the licking...well...i think theyd be a pretty fun date...LMAO- this was CRSE's answer.
  • DO YOU PREFER ELECTRIC OR MANUAL PENCIL SHARPENER? I end up with no pencil left with an electric pencil sharpener. I like a good, school-grade manual sharpener with the double barrels that revolve with the little crank, you know the one? Usually located near the teacher's desk...
  • WHAT’S YOUR STAND ON HUNTING? I come from a long line of Okies. I'm fine with it as long as you're not asking ME to shoot something. And as long as you do it humanely and take care of your shit. Don't go maiming things. People are freaking irresponsible about other PEOPLE, let alone animals that can't report them.
  • IS MARRIAGE IN YOUR FUTURE? I have a sparkly ring that says so.
  • DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? I cringe at the thought of my handwriting. As bad as my typing is, I heart my typing over my chicken scratch.
  • WHAT ARE YOU ALLERGIC TO? Spring. I love it, but it doesn't love me.
  • WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU SAID, “I LOVE YOU” ? Every ten minutes to my O's. They are gonna need so much therapy.
  • DO YOU CRY AT WEDDINGS? Not usually.
  • HOW DO YOU LIKE YOUR EGGS? Scrambled in butter to a tender sunny yellow, NOT overcooked, with Cold sliced tomatoes, sliced avocado, good salsa and flour tortillas. yum.
  • ARE BLONDES DUMB? Is dubya blonde?
  • WHERE DOES THE OTHER SOCK END UP? Art Hoppe explained that socks eat their mates.
  • WHAT TIME IS IT? too late for me to be online.
  • DO YOU HAVE A NICKNAME? Mistress. Supa Jen.
  • IS MCDONALD’S DISGUSTING? Probably, and yet I still pull into that drive thru.
  • WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WERE IN A CAR? About 2 hours ago.
  • DO YOU PREFER BATHS OR SHOWERS? Bath tub to relax, but a shower to be clean. Bathtubs are not clean to me.
  • IS SANTA CLAUS REAL? It's an office to be assumed. Like the incarnations of Piers Anthony. Give birth and the office is yours.
  • DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE YOUR NECK KISSED? I've had children with men who kissed my neck. Literally.
  • ARE YOU AFRAID OF THE DARK? Not usually.
  • WHAT ARE YOU ADDICTED TO? Chocolate croissants.
  • HAVE YOU EVER RIDDEN IN AN AMBULANCE? Only when I was a kid, my daddy did a lot of health fairs and things.
  • IS DRUG FREE THE WAY TO BE? I tend to put off taking an Advil for as long as I can, and Vicodin are nasty--But I'm not Tom Cruise--They make a lot of these medicines for a reason.
  • ARE YOU A HEAVY SLEEPER? When I am sick!
  • DO YOU LIKE YOUR LIFE? Overall, sure!
  • ARE YOU PSYCHIC? No, I'm rather dense.
  • DO YOU PLAY ANY INSTRUMENTS? I wish I played guitar.
  • HAVE YOU EVER STOLEN MONEY? I freaking put my own money INTO the till when I worked at B. Dalton. We were twenty dollars short and I'd never had that happen before and I almost peed my pants. Years later a bitter employee put that into her termination report, and My DM asked me about it. By that time I knew that the company sees that as almost as bad as pocketing cash, but I looked at him and said, well, yeah, I did. It was my first week as a manager. I sure as hell don't do it now. He laughed and casually tossed out that she really was a bitter bitch. He was right-she was termed by someone else, three years later, and THEN she rats me out? I loved that man.
  • CAN YOU SNOWBOARD? Nope, but I love to ski.
  • DO YOU LIKE CAMPING? If we are fully equipped. I'm not saying we need a trailer, but I want a certain comfort level. No beanie weenies from a can, thank you.
  • DO YOU BELIEVE IN MAGIC? In theory..
  • ARE DOGS A MAN’S BEST FRIEND? No. That would be the giant squid living in the depths of the marianas trench.
  • CAN YOU DO THE MOONWALK? You see, that would be DANCING, and I can't even pull off a decent Elaine. I am the original wallflower.
  • DO YOU MAKE A LOT OF MISTAKES? snicker giggle. Have we met?
  • IS IT COLD OUTSIDE TODAY? Nope, it went into the eighties.
  • WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Combo pizza leftover from Little O's Princess day.
  • DO YOU WEAR NAIL POLISH? Love it, hate taking it off. But Once it begins to go, it MUST come off. Thanks, mom!
  • HOW MANY PEOPLE DO YOU LIKE RIGHT NOW? More than ten, less than twenty.
  • WHAT’S THE MOST ANNOYING TV COMMERCIAL? Any tampon commercial. Big O still doesn't quite get the mechanics of it, and I'm letting him wander in a fog of horrified male confusion.OOOOOOOOOOOOH! Can I say a radio commercial? There is a campaign commercial, and it starts with a wife introducing a husband who oddly, reads all of the political ads that come in the mail. Then she asks him what he has learned. He explains that candidate A talks about more than the national things that annoy us, like foreign policy. He cares about things that matter here in the valley. Take Meth--at this point she moans.
    It's the kind of noise you make when you find out your favorite nephew sold his grandmother's car for a hit. He wasn't TELLING you to take meth, you stupid bitch. It annoys the crap out of me. It's poorly written and poorly acted, and I am stunned each and every time when Candidate A comes on to say he approved this ad. If this is an example of his judgment, Stay the hell away from Washington, there are enough of you there already.
  • DO YOU SHOP AT AMERICAN EAGLE? My right thigh considered it once, but my gigantic chest vetoed the idea.
  • FAVORITE SONG AT THE MOMENT? My mind is blank. I keep singing snippets of some fifties song, but I don't know what it is. I'll have to torture everyone at work with it tomorrow. today. ack. goodnight.

Sunday, October 22

Big number 4!


I wish I had one of those touching stories about giving birth. I was standing in line at the city, trying to get the water hooked up to my new residence. Municipal utilities are much like banks, and never have as many people at the counter as they have humming around behind them, distracting the overworked clerks by TALKING to them--While I go into labor waiting.
But we waited all through the line (I love my mommy), got everything turned on (hee-hee-hoo-hoo--I heart lamaze, too), and my mother drove me to the hospital. After that it's a druggy haze.

Little O was face down, not face up like they like,and they gave me so many drugs that I was asleep until the contractions peaked, when I woke up screaming (not like the lady down the hall, thank you--I don't do horror movie drama), and then would pass out again. My doctor was gone, so I got the wise cracking partner from his practice. I remember looking at the Honey, horrified, when the Doctor swung the bloody afterbirth around, whistling at the size--and then he dropped it.

She was tiny and perfect, and I wanted my mommy (who was watching Big O), and it seemed like (hello, DrUgS) two minutes after I gave birth, the Honey's sister and family hit. I was still fairly new to them, and a little disconcerted, but the drugs helped tremendously--and the fact that the afterbirth had been retired. I think I even gave up waiting and told them all I had to pee now. I wanted to go home, but the hospital insisted that I stay at least one night, and I thought, Okay, a little help would be nice.

I got the bitch from hell roommmate who was not breastfeeding, and would heave big dramatic sighs and fluff her pillow and toss and turn dramatically whenever Little O fussed. Her baby, you understand, was in the nursery, only to make occasional appearances. I looved that Little O was with me, but finally wanted a break from the cow's drama, so buzzed the nurse and asked if she could take little O to the nursery so "we" could rest, and bring her to me when she got hungry. I was told that breastfeeders are never away from their moms. Thanks for the help, ladies.

The hospital advised me that I could stay another day, and I refused. I went home where there were people to help. I hope that big cow stayed away from her crack pipe, but I'm sure she didn't.

Big O was thrilled until he found out she didn't DO anything. Then he went back to Bionicles. But at school he proudly introduced her to everyone, right down to the daycare receptionist. He said This is my sister, Little O. She's Little O Garcia when she's good and when she's bad She's Little O Bee (her middle name). Yep, I'm that mother. Your middle name comes out when I'm good and mad.

Little O hears her middle name a lot these days, but I wouldn't trade her for the winning lotto numbers. Today she is NOT getting a big party, but she IS getting to dress up as a princess all day, complete with rhinestone tiara, and visit all of her adoring subjects.

Love my O's!

Saturday, October 21

Twenty One MEs
LogoThere are:
people with my name
in the U.S.A.

How many have your name?

I stole this from Jenny In Ca, a fellow Thursday Thirteener, and yet another Jen.

According to this site, there are almost 1.4 million Jens in the US. Maybe I should just do a Jennifer Blog. I think we all have tales for being one of two, or six, or ten Jens in one class at one time. We ARE the Britney of the Seventies. OR would that be Britneys? Screw it--it's like the royal We. We are Jen. hmmm... that's a little borg-ish. The Jen Collective. That would be the blog name. I like it!
Probably never happen. I have trouble posting to THIS blog as often as I'd like, and Little O's wings are taunting me. Add to that the Honey tells me casually that we've been invited to go out as GROWN UPS the saturday before halloween. In Costume. I am stuck trying to think of costumes. He may go as a priest. I am so screwed. No clue, and it's the newlyweds with the 24 year old-nothing sagging-I dance like a music video-bride. sigh. Good thing I like her.

Thursday, October 19

Thursday 13 #16 Best halloween costumes

Thirteen Things Best Halloween Costumes Jen has seen

1…. Beetlejuice. Guy's girlfriend worked at a bridal gown manufacturer, and had a red lace wedding gown, but he totally ruled. He had a purple velvet tux that was at least two sizes too small, and had filled it with baby powder, so every time he told an awful joke, he would pat himself and dust would fly up...he also stayed in character all night, in spite of copious quantities of alcohol. Come to think of it, maybe that WAS his personality.

2. Spy vs Spy. I made giant paper maiche heads, with black screens for the eyes, and would have OWNED that contest if not for Beetlejuice. Took witch hats and cut the tops off to make proportionate fedoras, painted one white, left the other one black... but we had no schtick. I was lucky to get my boyfriend INTO the costume, let alone be planting bombs all night... I have no pictures of the greatest halloween costume ever. I think it's why I'm so obsessive about getting pictures of the kids in theirs...

3. Jellyfish. I lived in Chico one year, and that is a town that does Halloween right! They were dressed all in black, had clear umbrellas with bubble wrap hanging in strings, with glowing necklaces on. They would just lift the umbrellas up and down as they drifted through the crowd, and they looked like Jellyfish swimming along. The.Coolest.Costume.Ever.

4. The windy guys. Also in Chico. When you go downtown, you just drift from bar to bar in a giant circuit of downtown streets. These guys had their hair gelled back, and their ties and coats wired back, and they made whshh-ing noises as they fought their imaginary wind from one light pole to another. There were four or five of them, I think. Was I just drunk? Because I thought they were hysterical.

5. Tinkerbell. As performed by my 6' 2" brother. He found tights (I can't imagine where), wore a white tank top and shorts, and little white wings. Um, he also carried a baseball bat painted gold with a cardboard star stapled to the end, as his magic wand.

6. Flying Monkey. As NOT performed by my chicken brother. I wanted him to do it Will Ferrell style, with his hairy man belly sticking out with the little bell hop outfit worn by the monkeys in Wizard of Oz and a monky snout, wings and a tail. It would have been sheer genius.

7. St. Paulie Girl. The other Jen made her own costume, and while I only saw the photos, it blew me away--Mind, you and Jen look a little alike, you should find a party and just GO for it!

8. Fed Ex Guy. Okay it WAS in a bar, but he had a box attached to his fly and was asking women if they'd like to sign for his package, and then handed them a clipboard for their name and number. It was pretty funny.

9. Pregnant Nun. In high school, my friend delivered pizzas as a pregnant nun. Dave was outstanding.

10. Maleficent. The baddie from sleeping beauty? A co-worker committed to it and totally rocked--full makeup and black skull cap thing, the works.

11. Angel. I kicked ass on Little O's pirate costume last year, but I loved her Angel costume from the year before bettter. It's killing me to not post a picture.

12. Cowboy. I made Big O a cowboy when HE was two, with felt chaps and a little vest, and I've done way more elaborate costumes for him since then, but nothing beats how easy and great his little felt chaps looked. Maybe I just love two year olds in costumes?

13. The Boss. No, not Springsteen. I hope this year is funny, because I am going as my boss. Technically, I am going as my boss's boss. Everyone's boss. The BIG boss. He has a pretty good sense of humor. I hope. If not, I'm going to have to claim to have been dooced. Blame it on the blog.

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Monday, October 16

Alien Lemmings...


I just wanted to see if Picassa worked with Beta. Posted by Picasa

Lemming Pride, baby!

I only ever got five votes on my fabulous blog poll regarding Beta Blogger. That was actually one more than I thought I'd get. I got more votes for the line about midget porn than any real input on Beta being the sign of the apocolypse. So I just waited...

Sure enough, my secret twin, CRSE, jumped off the Beta cliff.

I, being a lemming, am leaping after her with my eyes screwed shut against the earth rushing to meet me.

Still no luck in getting technorati to recognize me--is it my forbidden love for Mr. Linky? Oh well, maybe the tag feature in Beta will help...

Sunday, October 15

Mom Moment

Originally uploaded by dandegez.

Little O just complained as I was brushing her hair.
She heaves a big sigh, and says "Mama, you are messing up my DOWN hair!"

I was brushing her bangs back.

Don't mess with the DOWN hair.

Love my O's...

Saturday, October 14

Things I'm liking...

I recently installed Firefox, and while dial up sucks as much as ever, some of the things that you can do in Firefox are a lot of fun! I like the stumble feature. It looks for interesting things FOR you, so you don't already have to know where to go...Did that make sense? I've been playing Which Do You Like Better?, but I'm not sure that it knows all that much yet, It's first question was whether or not I was a guy...But then again, I'm not so sentimental as some of my friends, so maybe the question was legit... Interesting!


Rules for Future Evil Overlords

This technorati thing is driving me nuts...I've embedded all of their stuff, and followed directions to the letter, but they do not show that I have updated since I registered my pings are off in deep space by now, what am I doing wrong?

Friday, October 13

Oh, Big O.

My son has been given the curse and blessing of an unusual name. It was my grandfather's name, it is a fine name. It is not the name of your
average bear.

In the course of a boy's life, certain temptations are almost irresistible.

One of these temptations is a pristine piece of wet cement.

Oh, Big O. When your name is as distinctive as yours, a nom de plume is in order.


One of the Honey's chief complaints about the Ex is that he does not ever make Big O suffer any consequences. I find that the Honey can be a little Draconian in his notions of discipline, and overall, I find that I am usually more in line with the Ex. You can imagine what a big hit this is at home.

My first instinct is to drag Big O by the ear down to public works and make him perform some sort of penance, like dumping out their trash cans or SOMETHING to show him that there are consequences. But this day and age, they could thank me for my honesty and then slap me with a bill for the signed concrete art.

I'm honest, and I'm civic minded.... and I'm poor.

So I called the ex to ask what he thought an appropriate measure would
be, and sure enough, he thinks a lecture would suffice. Boys will be boys.

I understand that it's a temptation beyond measure to a boy walking home alone from school.

But when he walks by it in the future, I want Big O to wince, and wish that he had not done it, NOT discover the joys of sharpies and start making his mark everywhere. (And may I say that I am terrified that they are going to ask the school about the name and bill me anyway.)

Any recommendations for consequences of boyish behavior? Less than a beating but more than a lecture.

I hate it when the Honey is right.

Thursday, October 12

Thursday 13 #15

13 Things that happened to me this week.

1. I scratched the bejeebus out of my arms picking limes for my Mother in law. Did you know lime trees have thorns?

2. I had a flash of brilliance regarding the halloween costume contest at work. I can't go into it, but I'm either winning for the "craziest" category, or I am SO fired.

3. I picked a huge fight with my ex-husband because, essentially, he is an idiot. It was give in and be nasty and mean spirited for three days, or chop him up and report him missing. Seriously, It was down to those two options.

4. Inadvertently screwed up with my friend, because her mother made me angry. I think I took her side a little too vehemently, and I'm sorry. very sorry.

5. Gave in and did the dishes, even though I was trying to be on strike because I seem to be the only one capable of loading the frigging DISHWASHER. We have a dishwasher, people-- and still I am the only one to cook, AND the only one to do dishes. But I had to . It was gross.
Big O will be unloading after homework.

6. Ate a kick ass dinner Saturday night--spent money we did not have taking sister-in-law out for her Birthday.

7. Lost my work weight loss competition by six lousy pounds. Evil accountant won, and boss offered her double or nothing. If she commits to losing the same amount of weight again by march, He will give her a THOUSAND dollars. I would sooo take the money now. And then go to Marie Callendar's.

8. But I renewed my vow to be below two hundred by Christmas!

9. Found my dress for the Christmas Party, EXACTLY what I wanted. I just happened to be wandering through the store and There it was marked down because it was last year's color. The only one in last year's color just happened to be in MY size. It was marked $70, and there was no way. But it was marked down to $56 and it was on sale, so I tried it on. It fit, and I decided that if it rang up under forty, I'd get it. Twenty-eight bucks, baby!

10. Went to the Dr. for the first time in twenty years that did not involve stirrups. Just a general check up. I'm good about paps, tho'.

11. Accepted that our glorious California summer is almost over and bought Little O some long sleeved t-shirts to wear under the cutie T-shirts with her jeans. She then naturally went on a dress kick and wanted to wear dresses to pre-school every day for a week, in spite of the crisp fall temperatures.

12. Had a good week with Big O in terms of homework (Always a struggle at our house).

13. Finally got trash toters in stock at work, which should cut down on the irate phone calls by half--unfortunately, the other half will still think that their bill only applies if they ENJOY gettting their garbage picked up. My job is still to explain that we get paid, whether they enjoy that fact or not. sigh. Another day, another stinking heap of--er another dollar.

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Wednesday, October 11

WTF Wednesday

So I am looking for recipes for all of the limes I just picked at my mother in law's house. I find an interesting no bake pie recipe, and at the bottom it has other topics you may be interested in...
Key Limes
Whipping Cream
Do Not Have Sex With Horses. Seriously. Don't.
Cream cheese
fairy cakes
Heart Attack on a plate
Graham cracker crusts

Which one of these doesn't belong?


Tuesday, October 10

Tasty Tuesday--Sugar Cookies

I was shopping this weekend and saw the most beautiful copper cookie cutters. They were crying out for Martha's Sugar cookies. Yes, THAT Martha. This is the most consistent, tasty recipe I have ever found for sugar cookies. I get lazy and make the dough into logs, rolled in colored sugar, I cut them into coins and bake quadruple batches. They are that good.

Martha's Sugar Cookies

4 C sifted All Purpose Flour
1/2 t salt
1 t baking Powder
1 C (2 sticks) unsalted butter
2 C Sugar
2 lg eggs
2 t vanilla OR 2 t fresh lemon juice + zest of 2 lemons

1. In a large bowl, sift together flour, salt, and baking powder, set aside.
2. Use an electric mixer to cream butter and sugar until fluffy. Beat in eggs.
3. Add flour mixture and mix on low speed until thoroughly combined. Stir in vanilla or lemon mixture. Wrap dough in plastic and chill for about 30 minutes.
4. Preheat oven to 325. On a floured surface roll dough to 1/8 inch thick. Cut into desired shapes. Transfer to ungreased baking sheets; refridgerate until firm, 15 minutes. Remove from fridge, decorate with sugar, if that blows your skirt up. Bake until edges just start to brown, 8 to 10 minutes. Cool on wire racks. May be stored at room temp in an airtight container for up to 2 weeks.

Makes 16 large cookies, or 30 2 1/2 inch cookies.

Um, double the recipe because you will want more immediately.

Monday, October 9

Stupid Tetanus Shot...

Originally uploaded by Nolan.Vong.

Yeah, that's right. A tetanus shot. And I'm not at all happy about it, either. Not for one of the O's, for ME. Doctor found out I worked at the garbage comapny and nothing would do but that I get a shot. I answer PHONES. But I can't remember when I last had one, so there I go. Stuck like the proverbial pig.
I scared the nurse when I told her I was a screamer in elementary school when shots came around.
Lord, I hated getting stuck.

I'm such a baby.


On the upside, the nurse was a little lazy, and even though it was sitting a bit high, she marked me down at 210 for weight. Gotta love those lazy wenches...

Sunday, October 8

Confession #483,697

Since I took and posted that damned photo, I have not done a thing on Little O's wings.

Must. Get. to. WORK.

My own true love...

Okay, so I tried it three times, and he came up on all three, I guess I should just accept that my Dead Celebrity Soulmate is Rudolph Valentino.

Go figure.

Although Henry the 8th was tempting....

Once again shamelessly stolen from Irreverent Antisocial Intellectual.

Can I get a boy band instead?

Originally uploaded by THEfunkyman.

It's THAT day in the honey's family, and they are getting excited...mama might make homemade menudo!


I have to explain that I will never thrive in Scotland, either. I am an Organ-o-tarian. Don't get me wrong, I am definitely a carnivore! I totally grossed out the favorite SIL last night because I ordered my steak medium (we went to a REAL restaurant for her birthday--I normally order med-rare) and it was gloriously pink. But today that same girl is dying to scarf down major organs stewed in a greasy red soup with some hominy, and I'm the gross one.

I don't do organs. Biggest organ on a body? The skin. And no, I don't want any deep fried pork rinds either. Yak. But this obsession wwith menudo and haggis and monkey brains (okay, no one I know eats monkey brains, but they are considered a delicacy, right?) is not something I can wrap my head around.

Why would you want to chew and swallow Nature's little filters. If it wasn't good for that cow or pig, why would it be good concentrated in that organ and then stewed?

I've eaten the broth to shut them up, and it's okay. They make a non-organ kind called Pasole (I've probably misspelled that) that uses meat instead of organs. They give you shredded cabbage, and onions and radishes, and lemon and oregano to sprinkle on it .

OOOH, can I get a big piece of intestine to go with my cabbage and radishes? MMMM, chewy!

Friday, October 6

It's Here! It's Here! It's Here!


I found one! I had money in my pocket when I found one! If you don't know what I'm talking about, you may be looking for the Brazilian kid whose blog is in Portuguese--hit the "next blog" buttton one more time. What's that? Japanese anime video gaming blog? Three hits on the button and good luck loading that fucker!

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Thursday, October 5

Operation Lose That Ass: the final tally.

Booooo Hoooooo

I lost both of my weight loss competitions, and yet I won...

I went from 228 at the start of the work competition, and was down to 223 at the start of OLTA.

My weight as of tuesday? 214.2

The evil accountant has triumphed at work. But maybe not for the ca$h... we have to wait for the final weigh in on monday, but I am definitely not gonna make 204 to qualify by then...

On a happier note, Quinn has been declared the winner of OLTA.

Quinn, Quinn, you are looking so Thin!
You may need a sandwich.
What's that in the grass? The rest of your Ass?
May I suggest a Monte Cristo?

Okay, I told you guys that you would have to write the poetry, now you know why. I'm sorry Quinn, you deserve better.

But really, I didn't lose anything except the extra weight that has been creeping on to me, and i intend to keep losing. I'm gonna be below 200 by Christmas. And that includes the glory that is Turkey day in November!

Wednesday, October 4

Thursday 13 # 14--Rockin 80's songs, man!

Thirteen 80's lyrics from JENNFACTOR

Name the song and the artist!

I don't know who to give credit to! I've played on a couple of TTers song lyrics, and always had fun--if you had friends wearing black makeup in the 80's, you may be a little more successful with these! Love you, Kat!

1…. If you twist and turn away
If you tear yourself in two again
If I could,You know I would
If I could,I would
Let it go


2. Someone write me a letter
I need to know that I'm still alive
Someone give me a telephone call
I need to hear a human sound
Someone open up a door
And let me out of this place
I've been caged up for oh so long
I don't know of I'm living or dying

Man, I was bright and happy teen, wasn't I?

3. And fiery demons all dance
When you walk through that door
Don't say you're easy on me
You're about as easy as a nuclear war
Cos the dream that strings the road
With broken glass for us to hold
And I got so far before I had to say

4. But I think that God's
Got a sick sense of Humor
And when I die
I expect to find Him laughing.

5. You hear laughter
Cracking through the walls
It sends you spinning
You have no choice...

Following the footsteps
Of a rag doll dance
We are entranced
(ahem, insert song title here)

6. He's got to make his own mistakes
And learn to mend the mess he makes
He's old enough to know what's right
But young enough not to choose it

7. I see you've sent my letters back
And my LP records and they're all scratched
I can't see the point in another day
When nobody listens to a word I say

8. In the silence, I think of you
I send a message, and I hope it gets through
Think of the distance
Think of the miles
All of the valley's, could take a while

I miss the people
I miss the fun
Your my apparition
She's my only one

9. I like the way that they walk
And it's chill to hear them talk
And I can always make them smile
From White Castle to the Nile

10. Good times they come and they go
Never going to know
What fate is going to blow
You're way just hope it feels right
Sometimes it comes and it goes
You take it ever so slow
And then you lose it, then it flows right to you
So we rely on the past
Special moments that last
Were they as tender as we dare to remember
Such a fine time as this
What could equal the bliss

11. Darkness Imprisoning me
All that I see
Absolute horror
I cannot live
I cannot die
trapped in myself

12. Across the clouds I see my shadow fly
Out of the corner of my watering eye
A dream unthreatened by the morning light
Could blow this soul right through the roof of the night
There's no sensation to compare with this
Suspended animation, A state of bliss
Can't keep my eyes from the circling skies

13. When I'm out walkin' I strut my stuff
Man,I'm so strung out
I'm high as a kite and I just might stop to check you out

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Monday, October 2

Buy some stamps-eat some Yogurt

pink ribbon
Originally uploaded by Lynxy.

Carolee Wallis was my mother-in-law.

She was a tiny woman with sparkly brown eyes, and she was soft and squishy and tender hearted. I could not have asked for a more perfect grandmother for my son. She was kind of fluttery and really should have been in a fifties sitcom. She was a very fifties kind of mom.

The ironic thing is that Carolee was a survivor.

She survived her childhood, with family issues that no one talked about at the time. She survived the death of her first husband, left with three small children to raise. She survived the abandonment of her second husband, in the midst of her second pregnancy with HIM, leaving her with five kids under ten. She even managed to survive the next two disastrous marriages.

She found true love when she least expected it, and by the time I met her had settled into domestic bliss, taking care of little independent seniors in her community. They were her "ladies" and she gave them companionship and transportation, and made sure that they weren't living out of cat food cans.

She was the very definition of a caregiver.

But when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, she wasn't cared for. The doctor treating her was undergoing treatments for a wasting disease himself, and weeks after her mastectomy, he passed away. Carolee had faith in the system and was sure that if something more needed to be done, someone would be calling her.

She fell through every crack like alice through the looking glass. By the time she insisted that she needed to be seen, she had a festering wound. The woman who took care of everyone else died with a gaping black hole in her chest . It's been six years and I am still incredulous and angry. The woman who had survived so much just couldn't survive this.

Carolee died surrounded by her family, at home, and we worepink ribbons at her funeral. I have my pink ribbon, still held together by the angel pin she gave to us at christmas, up on the wall at my job, to remind me how lucky I am to be here and how precious it all is.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

Support it any way you see fit-but support it.

Carolee Wallis was my mother-in-law.